Stop

Stop trying to tell me how to write my stories.

Stop telling me I have to do this or I have to do that with my writing, ’cause guess what? I don’t.

I don’t mind friendly suggestions about ideas for the story or telling me your thoughts or you telling me stuff you think needs correcting. I appreciate that. I really do. I will talk about it with you and think and pray about your advice and/or suggestions, and if I decide no thanks, no hard feelings. I still appreciate you trying to help me. But don’t push it if I say no.

And don’t get all patronising if I say no to your idea/suggestion.

Don’t tell me what to do and don’t tell me I have to do what you want. This is my story, this is my style of writing. If you want it written the way you told me, then write a story with that idea. But leave me be with my style if I say no.

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52 thoughts on “Stop

  1. This is very clear. Crystal clear. I can relate to your feelings. People always give too many uninvited and unnecessary advice. Keep up with your original style, no matter what advice comes. Accept good ones and neglect not good ones. And finally, do not respond to the bad ones. It can waste your very important and scarce resource that is “time.” Don’t waste your post on these issues. With lots of love and appreciation. Yah bless your style and writing. 😊🌹

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    1. Thanks! I agree. I wouldn’t have bothered, except someone was trying to tell me how to write, getting a little pushy and patronising, so I decided that I would do one post about my feelings on the matter, so that it is all honest and above board and so that everybody knows not to try and tell me how to write my stories.

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      1. Wow. That is good one. I agree. But I would like to see you focus on your stories. Can I make a suggestion, with your permission? 😊🙏 Why don’t you consider publishing your stories as kindle ebooks. Your stories will sell like hot cakes. I am confident. 😊🙇 A humble suggestion. 😊

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  2. 🙂 Well, to be quite honest, it is your story and you deserve the right to present it in a manner that is most beneficial to you.

    Also, we as bloggers, are not obligated to accept every suggestion given by others.

    From the tone of your post, I can tell that someone really pissed you off.

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  3. There seems to be some with a very fixed idea of what is right with writing, for example, there seems to be an awful prejudice against adverbs. The orthodoxy would have it that you shouldn’t use adverbs at all. Well, like you, I think it is better to be true to yourself and your own writing style and voice. If people like it or not, that’s up to them, but you have to write from your own heart. 🙂

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    1. Really? I use adverbs. And I use the terms ‘get’ or ‘got’, etc., even though they are not grammatically correct, but I only use them when I can’t think of an alternative word or phrase.
      I agree – with the rest of your comment. 🙂

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    1. Somebody was trying to tell me what to do with my writing. He or she was getting a little pushy and then went patronising when I said ‘no’. I was pissed a lot, so did a post so that people will know not to get pushy about an idea or suggestion if I don’t want to do it. So now it is all honest and above board, so to speak.

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  4. Someone or multiple someones have obviously upset you. Shake it off and keep writing, but don’t ever close yourself off to advice from people in the biz.

    If you decide to go pro as a career (which you have the skill to do, although novel writing can be a bit like winning the lottery compared to other facets of the biz), you will be working with college professors, agents, editors, publishers etc. Many of them (most of them, probably) will make your work better if you give them space.

    Not everything a writer wants to do is marketable. Sad, but true. You will have to learn to find a balance between who you are, what God is asking of you and what the market will sustain. Blessings, Racheal!

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    1. I do listen to other people’s advice sometimes. I know that I will sometimes need it, and I don’t mind people suggestions or editing tips as it helps me out, but what I really don’t like is when people get pushy about it when I don’t want to do it or they tell me I have to do this or that. I always pray about suggestions I get from other people, and I have sometimes used them as Yah/God says to. But when He says no, I don’t and He always shows or tells me what to write and how to order the scenes (like which scene to go to next, etc.).
      If I am able to get my stories published, I will listen to the editor, but I will always be praying and asking Yah/God for His direction on what to do.

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    1. Basically, no-one tells me I have to do something with my writing and no-one is going to tell me what to do when writing (except God/Yah). I don’t mind and really appreciate suggestions, editing tips, etc., so long as no-one is pushing it and telling me this is what I have to do. People can make suggestions, but if I don’t want to do it or Yah/God says don’t do that, then no hard feelings to the person and I still appreciate them trying to help me, but no, thanks.

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    1. Yep, I agree. Sometimes it is good to listen to other people and I have gone to people for advice with my stories, but generally I do what Yah/God says to do. I have sometimes done what people have suggested, but I don’t like it when they get all pushy.

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  5. For the most part I think, I’ve always thought the blogging community was pretty friendly and nonjudgemental but every now and then you’ll come across some of the rudest ones!! I’m proud of you for standing up for yourself!! Your blog is YOUR BLOG!! They don’t have to like it or how you do things but they dang sure better respect it!!

    I’d love to connect with you here in the blogging community speaking of which! Here’s my latest post! I’d love for you to come on over and check it out whenever you get the chance 🙂 xoxo! Sending lots of love and positive vibes your way!!

    https://jessierenea.com/standards-are-absolutely-necessary/

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      1. I just saw it !! 😜 I’m so happy that you remembered me because I really didn’t think you wouldn’t !! I’m smiling so big right now!! 💕

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      2. Well … I got promoted to work with the Therapy Department as a Rehab Tech .. at first I liked it but every since November, it’s been EXTREMELY stressful ☹️ I’m trying to hang in there though at least for another few months.

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  6. WELL HELLO THERE. I had a conversation about feedback just yesterday with a Tibetan monk who writes. I said that feedback to me was better when it was what a person thinks of what I’ve written or understands from it. Of course it’s different for me since I write more abstract things.
    You may have forgot but I haven’t, that you nominated me for a blog award thing, and it/s been on my to- do list for a while. I shall get to it soon.
    I’m sorry you’ve been pushed to a place where you’ve had to write this post.
    Much love from the count

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